The people who are more likely to retain a PC and not just use a phone, are more likely to be tech literate power users.

This selects against casual windows users, and selects for hardcore Linux users

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Thank you, it’s hard to fight for nuance in such a polarised world, but I appreciate your tenacity.

We can all be winners if we just talk

Yes, totally agree, we should all just stick to our initial assumptions and then rationalize them afterwards

It’s not a competition. Let’s all be better

I literally just want to say thank you. I’ve been trying to get across something similar, and I’m sure we’d disagree on a few issues. But your compassion and understanding of all points of view is genuinely inspiring

Acknowledging someone’s pain also makes it easier to understand their motives, find common ground, and love forward together

That’s all very valid, I’ve experienced what you’ve said here too.

On the other hand, I’ve also had interactions with people who trauma dump as a deliberate tactic to abuse my empathy to excuse their toxic behaviour. I believe this is fairly common with narcissists.

It’s made interactions with people who are genuinely trauma dumping really hard for me, as it immediately gets my guard up and adds a huge amount of friction to future interactions.

I get that this is partially just my problem, and also that this comment itself is kinda trauma dumping. But I thought it would be helpful as another reason as to why trauma dumping might not be the best idea

The biologist is arguing that segregating based on biology is flawed. I think I was agreeing with them.

Sorry if that wasn’t clear. And you are right my question doesn’t make sense, they’re just saying you can’t segregate on biology

Sorry if this question seems stupid, but you seem to really know what you’re talking about.

My understanding is that the main issues TERFs have is protecting women’s spaces, and that by having a vague or arbitrary definition of womanhood it erodes those spaces.

I personally would like to see a society that’s far less focused on gender and minimises that kind of segregation outside of medical necessity. But I know that’s quite extreme and I don’t have a “perfect” solution, assuming we’re going to keep things like women’s only gyms, domestic violence shelters, and professional sports.

Judging based on “passing” is clearly transphobic and ignores any kind of intersex/non-binary presentation. As well as some masculine featured afab women somehow failing. And basing on biology is clearly flawed. So if it’s not too much trouble what would your suggestion be?