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Cake day: July 15th, 2023

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  • The categories that encompass “man” or “woman” or whatever are socially constructed. The outlines of those categories especially are so far from being absolutes of nature or physical constants.

    But people still have an innate sense of themselves and their own identity. So even though the rules are made up and the points don’t matter, people can still know which box they go in based on that sense.

    For some people, they’re just comfortable in the box everyone right they’d go in and never think about it. Stone people don’t care which box they’re in and so never bother to think about it. There’s all our cis folks. Stone people don’t really care which box they’re in, but they do still think about it and decide they go outside any of them. Some people think they go in one box sometimes and either box at other times. There’s the nonbinary folks. And then there’s people who can tell they fit in a box, but everyone seemed to think they’re actually in the other one until they mistake was pointed out.

    The boxes themselves are totally made up, but they still exist. And since they exist, people can still tell which ones they go to. The fact that the boxes are fake doesn’t make them not “real”, it just makes enforcing them and telling people you know what big they should be on better than they do stupid.










  • The queer community can be incredibly discriminatory against the bi part of itself

    Or the trans part of itself. Or the questioning part of itself. Or probably the lesbian and gay parts, let alone the +. It sucks, but it turns out queer folks are just, well… Folks. So we gotta work on that.



  • Girl is developing a very clear relationship with another girl, building over multiple arcs. And then a different author gets to write a book and instead of even trying to be subtle he just has the characters up on stage, announcing how they feel (it makes me feel angry):

    Chandra had never been into girls. Her crushes — and she’d had her fair share — were mostly the brawny (and decidedly male) types like Gids.